Trying to fulfill our many responsibilities can create much stress and overwhelm to the point where you are caught in what can only feel like a tornado. If you want to live a life of true happiness you must break this cycle. You must change this situation and become more intentional about building a positive life and avoiding a life of misery.
1. Over thinking
Everyone thinks things through when making a decision or evaluating a situation, but it becomes overthinking when you can’t get out of your own head. If you can’t get out of your own head, you’re not taking any action.
2. Seeking validation.
If you are looking to others to approve your ideas, that means you have no confidence in yourself. The people you are seeking validation from may see this as a weakness and use it to manipulate you.
3. Blaming others.
Blaming others is the opposite of taking personal responsibility. Those in control of their own lives always take personal responsibility.
4. Doubting yourself.
If you don’t believe in yourself you’re unlikely to take any risks essential for your growth. Doubting yourself will also will invite others to feed that doubt and keep you average.
5. Trying to please everyone.
“A friend of everyone is a friend of no-one” Everyone is different, pleasing everyone can’t be done. Trying to please all will make you act fake. No one will trust you. Just be yourself.
We overreact when we lose control of our emotions. If you put this emotion on display, some people will try and get a reaction out of you on purpose to show you up. Take a moment to think before you react.
7. Relying on motivation.
Motivation is great to get you started, but it’s near impossible to maintain. Motivation is best used to build life changing habits. Once it’s a habit you won’t need motivation. Waiting for motivation is just procrastination.
8. One-upping people.
One-uppers are braggarts that are afraid of being perceived as small, weak, or insignificant. If you’ve been to Tenerife, a one-upper will tell you they’ve been to Elevenerife. They do it out of insecurity, and this only exposes that insecurity.
9. Worrying about what you can’t control.
This will drain you of the mental strength you need to be productive by concentrating on what you can control. For example, some people refuse to even try and get better because they’re too worried about the state of the economy.
10. Feeding your ego
An inflated ego is also a big reason for overreacting and one upping. It’s frustrating to think so highly of yourself and be treated with contempt by others, this is why it then becomes so easy to show yourself up.